The recent Netflix film “Nappily Ever After” is a much-needed confidence pill for this generation including myself. The movie is adapted from a book with a similar name by Trisha R. Thomas. As and when I saw the movie I thought to myself, “This movie deserves an article”. Sanaa Lathan has beautifully portrayed the character, Violet Jones.
I am in my mid 20’s with unmanageable curly hair and crooked teeth. Naturally, when puberty hit me I started getting conscious of my looks (which was just 3 years back!). Let me get you to how I relate myself to Violet Jones and my own Nappily Ever After story.
1. Being YOU is okay!
In this world of Kardashians and Jenners, be a Diana. I understand entirely how unreal they are and it’s not possible to ignore them even if you secretly hate them. But the point is, do not get influenced.
I religiously straighten my hair and even thought of fixing my teeth and then realized, “NOOO..this is your identity”. Now I embrace it, I want to be identified as that girl with curly hair and crooked teeth. Of course, I have gone through the mocking phase one too many times, just ignore.
2. Perfection is a Myth
Yes, there’s no such thing as perfection. I understand your strive for being beautiful, it’s not wrong to have such thoughts. Put on your favourite lipstick, curl your lashes and conquer the world but do not get overly obsessed to change the entire YOU.
I had no idea what half the make-up products were until I was 22 and I survived. When we start filtering everything through the eyes of perfection, we never seem to get there. It sure will take time and patience for you to get to that mentality but once you’re there you’d never want to go back.
3. Define yourself with Personality
You’re not going to change society’s definition of beauty, but you can change your own. Focus on what you like about your abilities, personality, relationships, and perspective on the world. The anxiety and stress you feel about how you look can take an actual toll on your face, and you’ll be more likely to display the outer signs that genuinely detract from a pleasant appearance.
Wear a smile throughout, which will actually help in boosting your self-confidence.
4. Self Love
Your genuine self-love will outlast any physical imperfection, deformity or change. Even as you age and your youthful attractiveness transform into mature, profound beauty that is primarily based on your inner worth, this confidence will be your most valuable attribute. Its powerful allure will stand out and endure all the challenges of life, and it will not fade with the passage of time.
I hope you like this article, please leave your comments below and share if you find this useful! Don’t forget to watch Nappily Ever After for the actual aura!